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A Meditation for Frustration, Anger, & Annoyance
Frustration, anger, or even annoyance can make you feel very depleted. It can keep you stuck because you can feel very low or even depressed. However, it is really important to honour these feelings, but it is choosing to stay in these feelings that can make you stuck. Honouring your emotions and seeing what they are connected to will enable you to let go, to release, and to pick you up. It’s really important to place a level of understanding to those emotions. And they don’t need to be a 10 out of 10, angry anger. These emotions can be small but still impact you.
If we perceive them as a piece of information that is highlighting something for you, and not see them as good or bad: they are just trying to show you something. Then when you work out what that is, you have options and possibilities to move forward. I often explain that when you are triggered, which can cause anger, frustration, and annoyance, the trigger isn’t about another person or the environment – it is about yourself. This can often lead to past events, past experiences, past relationships. You may find yourself recycling the same thing over and over again. And it’s really hard in the moment to see that you actually have a choice. I respect that with people, that it can hard for them to look and be with their emotions in order to understand it.
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Most of the time, a part of your brain is actually trying to keep you safe. But there are many ways to move out of this emotion. I’m often telling people that it is really important to write these things down. The main reason for doing this is to get it out of your headspace. The narrative that is in your headspace will just keep repeating it. You can break that cycle by writing it down. Now you can actually see it in front of you and then you can break it down a little bit more, and ask certain questions.
These questions need to be relevant to what you are feeling and the situation you are in. You always have to bring it back to you – why are you feeling angry, frustrated or annoyed? It could be as simple as this person doesn’t make me feel valued, my partner isn’t listening to me, I feel stuck in the same routine, nobody notices me at work, my parents have never praised me, my children are not hearing me, etc. For instance, if somebody doesn’t make you feel valued, it’s often important to understand the position of where that person is, to see if they are capable of giving you that. Asking it of someone can simply not be enough for some people. It comes back to, do you value yourself? If it is in a work setting, for example, you can ask yourself if this is right job for you or is there something that you could do in the workplace to help you feel more valued. If it is in a relationship, when was the last time you both sat down and had a good talk with each other, but both of you listened to each other, and is there something you also need to do within that relationship?
These are the kinds of things that I help my clients with because people don’t always know how to do this with themselves. It’s not something we are actually taught and so it is a skill you have to learn and implement day to day. It’s like with children: children don’t often listen to their parents because children are children. It is something that needs to be taught.
Once you start practicing these kinds of questions and listening to yourself, and asking yourself what you can change or move, then you will learn to hear the answer quicker and to trust it. This actually builds up your self-worth, your trust in yourself, and help you with your confidence. If anybody has a question that they would like answering, please write in, get in contact, and I will answer these questions in my upcoming podcast and future posts.
This meditation will help you with connecting to those emotions of frustration, anger, annoyance, irritation, etc. But it will help you to slow it down so you can hear, because in these moments we don’t hear ourselves fully when we are in the emotion. The video is below. Enjoy it and if you would like to share your thoughts, please do.
With love and honour,
Yvette
