…I was here all along!
When you truly know yourself, you will understand what it is you want.
What does it mean to know yourself? People will interpret this in different ways…however a commonly held view is knowing yourself means to know your strengths, weaknesses, values, beliefs and what is important to you.
Have you ever stopped to ask yourself who you truly are!?
Did you get anywhere with that question or are you just more confused?
Believe us when we say we truly understand, it can be very confusing/daunting. You are not alone. Many people tell us they haven’t found themselves yet…
It is far easier than you ‘THINK’!
Your language plays an important role in this. If you have worked with us or read much of our material you will know this is a subject very close to our hearts…our language has the ability to open up the doors or trap us where we are. What is the general conversation that you often have with yourself?
For example, if you are often going around having the conversation you don’t know where you are, you don’t know what you are doing, what you are meant to be doing, or you are unclear of where you are going then you will be constantly seeking things/stories to validate that and keep yourself in the pattern.
The law of attraction states that whatever you focus on, think about, read about, and talk about intensely, you’re going to attract more of into your life – Jack Canfield
You can improve your life by improving the thoughts that you dwell upon and the actions that you take. Focus is key.
Let’s look at focus.
Have you ever tried playing the game ‘yellow lorry’ with your children. Where you teach them on a journey to spot every yellow moving vehicle. The color is a less common one but the more your children look for them the more they will spot them, then they will always see them. What we focus on is what we get.
There are a few little things that you can do to start knowing who you really are, let’s simplify it.
Take a piece of paper and write down some of the following:
- Are you male or female?
- Do you have brothers or sisters?
- Are you an mother or father, aunt or uncle, grandma or grandad?
- Write down your interests and hobbies
Yes… it is as simple as this, this is a part of who you are but it doesn’t define you
Now let’s look at the next bit…
Write down your values and beliefs (between 10 and 20)
These are the ideas and concepts from which we view ourselves and the world around us. Examples may include:
Values – The things in our lives that are important to us – e.g. being charitable, friendly, honest, loyal, happiness, love, family.
Beliefs are the lens through which we view our lives, often held as true without any factual evidence. They can come from our own experiences in life, our parents, religion, media & marketing etc. E.g. life is hard, people always take advantage of me, I am not good enough, its not right to make mistakes, I don’t deserve…, I am……, I can’t…..because……,
Now look at your list and number them in order of the most important to you. Start at 1 being the most important.
The first three are the ones influencing you and your life the most. How are they serving you? Do they empower or dis-empower you? Encouraging you to grow or keeping you stuck?
Choose something to change. Flip it to humour or a positive outlook. Discipline is key. Work on it constantly as this will create a new habit.